Mirror Mirror who is prettier !

Whenever there comes a reference of a mirror, the first thing that comes to my mind is the fascinating childhood fairy tale "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs" 

The story of Snow White is not a simple story. Its a classic example of how we are so fond of seeking affirmations for our self worth. Like in the story the step mother of Snow White could not appreciate and recognize the beauty in other woman. For her she was the only one mattered. She needed this magic mirror to affirm her dignity and beauty daily. The only answer she was satisfied with is "self". So she constantly asked "Mirror Mirror who is prettier?"

But why did she do this ? Why wasn't she convinced and felt the need to check daily ? Why did she feel the need of that daily appreciation and affirmation that she was the prettiest ?

So many times I wonder - Was the step mother the only one who wanted this affirmation ? Isn't she just like one of us ?

Arguably so - We  all are the same. Invariably we have all been there. We do look in to the mirror to see what we want to see. We do compare ourselves with others and seek a silent affirmation of being better than others, We do in many ways make an attempt to prove ourselves how much better we are than them ... even sometimes to the point of bringing others down - not a great idea of course.

Quiet a few times I do wonder to myself what if this universe had no reflective surfaces, What if there were no mirrors ? What if we dint know how we looked like ? What if we did not have anyone reconfirming to us what we wanted to hear for ourselves OR What if we had mirrors that were like scanners which only showed us the internal affairs and told us whats really going on ....  

HA HA HA HA 

Most often we look at the mirror and strike an instant connect with our alter ego and we smile ! In every interaction, we subconsciously explore every possibility of seeking a validation of our perfect making and reassuring ourselves of being the best, somewhere deliberately suppressing and avoiding our "self - referral" system, that we all have inside us, which keeps popping up at every odd minute.  

But guys .. hold on ... a warm assurance .. this does not make us EVIL at all . Its just being human. The construction of we humans are that way. We all have an innate desire in us to be known, respected, loved and wanted. Unfortunately, we sometimes, in our ignorance get carried away a bit too far and in the process of seeking to fulfill these desires we adopt unhealthy ways.

Let’s not be like the stepmother in Snow White. 

Lets not forget we all are also made up of beautiful hearts which helps us in bringing the other side to our personality. Instead of the physical mirror we can have our private moments with that inner mirror which is inside all of us silently smiling and watching everything but not saying a word. It only speaks up when we decide to spend some time with it. More and more we start spending time with this little inner mirror, more and more it starts talking to us and very lovingly making us realize how truly beautiful and pretty we all are. 

This is something that we need to remind ourselves daily. With this post I want to take your attention to all those qualities which make you truly beautiful and pretty. I request you to attend to yourself, concretely, quietly and reflectively. I urge to withdraw yourself completely from the external influences and delve within and discover your own potentiality of being.

Trust me it will go without saying "You are the most beautiful - The prettiest - The best "

Privilege of being a "Woman"

What a powerful realization  ...

Just heard Sushmita Sen's talk few days back ... bowled over completely :)
Hats off to you lady for your heart wrenching speech at the "Save and Empower the girl child Campaign Fashion Show" - You were simply awesome !

The age of the Aquarius is on its way by December 2012 ... is how she starts. Explaining further she says the age of Aquarius is when women will rise. It is the time when we will come to the awareness of female strength. This powerful opening statement was more than enough for my eyebrows to raise and my eyes getting glued to the screen awaiting anxiously for her next line.

She continues ... 

there is a reason why the law of nature says to you I will not let you choose - when you become pregnant you will not know / you shouldn't if its a girl / boy.  That is the law's nature of keeping the balance between the nurturer and the provider. And if we kill the nurturer life will stop to exist the way we see it. If we kill the girl child we kill the womb of the universe. 

How beautiful and how wonderful a thought is that. 

The PRAKRITI - mother of the entire cosmos - takes a birth with a girl child. While I write this I get the goosebumps - realizing what a power it is that we all women carry - the power of nurturing LIFE ...  'WOW' :)

Modern science has reached the moon and beyond but has not reached till date even close to a good answer to the question - where does life come from ? Medical science confirms that a baby's heart starts beating 18 days from conception - but the puzzle to solve here is how does an organ of a poppy seed size just suddenly bursts in to life by spontaneously contracting, triggering its neighboring cells and setting off a chain reaction until all the heart cells are beating and then the rest of the organs start forming slowly and slowly. On a spiritual understanding it is not just simple a body of bones, muscles and blood - it is LIFE. 

Isnt it just magical - "pure magic" and nothing else to put it in one word. 

My complete surrender to that energy, to that power and to the women who have the blessings to be born with the womb that brings life on earth. 

In pursuit of happiness ...

... is the thought that we all lead our entire life with. But more often than not we fail to answer the question when asked "What is happiness for you?"

If there's one thing that can be said about happiness, it's that it's wholly and utterly subjective. We all have our own understanding to it and its arguably true that it is always one to his own and we try and give the most satisfying answer for that moment. What makes one person happy -- picking flowers on a sunny day, perhaps -- may make another person decidedly unhappy ... HAHAHA :)

Surprisingly enough how much deep we go convinced with our own definition at that particular moment these definitions keep changing with time. Yesterday I was happy because I had my favorite ice cream and today I am not because perhaps I don't know what will make me happy and further more thats because guess I don't know what is happiness ! :( I wonder why is there no permanency in the definition. 

Studies show one of the main reason of not being able to find a good if not perfect answer to this question is not understanding the meaning of this thing called HAPPINESS in the first place :)

As I grow in this area, I realize how true it is. Sometimes "Selfishness" brings happiness and sometimes "Selflessness" brings happiness. But in both cases the word "SELF" holds its own firm significance. Its like, to be CAREFUL or be CARELESS or be CAREFREE one needs to first understand the word "CARE' :) 

Interestingly enough, studies demonstrate a strong link between Self and Happiness. Spending some time on a daily note with "SELF" for the cultivation of few “sacred moments” in daily life, whether through writing or introspecting or daily spiritual exercises like meditation, has been associated with finding that lost connect with SELF and hence one's own HAPPINESS. 

As a last exercise for the day before winding up, opening my heart out in that small little diary of mine and confiding in my silence with my pen brings in the connect to the lost self and broadening my own understanding to life. In this process the thoughts start getting purified every time and the connection starts rebuilding. Scientifically proved studies show that these practices help us move inward and thus provide us with changed perspective, positivity and a deeper sense of meaning towards life and hence towards a clear picture and understanding of my own Happiness. 

Wishing all dear friends a beautiful journey  in their own pursuit of happiness :)